The Pivot Year

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It’s almost April and in the South, everything is beginning to bloom. It is gorgeous.

This time last year was the beginning of huge changes in my life. I thought that the pandemic, cancer, and divorce would be when I would write about huge life changes; however, the challenges I faced in the Spring of 2023 were unexpected, heartbreaking, and lifechanging.

It is a year ago when my father told me not to come home for Easter because he was sick with Covid and did not want to expose me. Long story somewhat short, I was able to see him while he was sick in the hospital. I snuck in three times (Covid unit) and third time would be the last that I would have the opportunity to see him alive.

My dad was my hero. I don’t say that lightly. My mom left when I was five, as she had her own struggles. Between my mom’s family, my dad, and a family of a dear friend, my childhood was magical even through the pain. Single dad life in the 70s was pretty rad- going to bars and drinking Shirley Temples while he picked up women, sitting on a cop car in West Memphis while dad had a beer in his hand, eating TV dinners and watching the Muppets with my favorite person.

I still have a lot to process with this loss…and that is only one loss from last year that changed my life forever, but those posts (yes- plural) are for later. Today reminds me of the opportunity to renew and embrace the hope that this crazy ass life brings each of us- and that is what I am choosing to do.

This blog was originally started to express ways people can make change in their lives to improve the lives of others. What can this look like if we start that process by looking at ourselves first? During this transition period in 2023, I went to the beach with my incredible aunt Sherida. While we were shopping in a sustainable store in Fernandina Beach, Florida, I ran across “The Pivot Year” by Brianna Wiest. I didn’t know why, but I knew I needed it in my life. Not until this moment did I realize that I had taken a screenshot of the quote below years before finding the book.

So today I start this blog again. For me. For my sanity. For my heart. For my healing. Welcome to my pivot year.

“You must be the only one in Alabama…”

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I recently had the pleasure of shopping for new sustainable clothing on a recent trip to Atlanta- in an actual store! While that may not be a big deal for most folks, it was for me. If I want to buy new sustainable clothing, that means shopping on-line. Being there to try things on and to ask questions from the experts made this experience luxurious.

The very awesome women at Amour Vert engaged in my eager conversation about sustainability- something I long for on the regular. While I have a few folks who strive for the same thing, I realized how much I have learned on my own. Due to that, I thought it may be helpful to give a pep talk to anyone thinking about taking this step to the wonderful world of ethical living- no matter where you live.

Step one: Know why it is important to YOU.

There are so many different reasons to shop sustainable. For me, it started as a human rights issue. If I am standing up for women’s rights in this country, how can I buy clothing made by anyone- man, woman, or child- who is not being paid fairly and in unsafe working conditions. Is that new piece of clothing worth me not caring about another human on this same planet? I think we all know the answer there.

I have learned through this decision about the pollution clothing produces and the chemicals in fast fashion that are toxic and making people sick. I know I will learn and my why will continue to grow. Determining your why- no matter what it may be- will encourage you to stay on this journey.

Step two: Do what you can with what you have.

I need a good challenge…and when I started (and to this day) shopping ethically is still one! If you are a shopper, try starting by shopping locally first. While the clothing or items may not be ethical, it is a good way to break away from any of the chains that are famous for fast fashion. Once you walk away (or RUN!!!) from (insert chain here that currently has commercials on for $7 jeans), it gets easier.

Once you get into it, you can feel guilt for breaking that resolution- even if it is on accident. In the first years of this challenge, I bought a darling bathing suit cover and didn’t think about it at all…until I got home. I couldn’t believe my mistake and felt like a failure. This is a process and you got to give yourself some grace while you are learning how and where to shop.

Step 3: Have some fun!

I absolutely love researching companies to find out their mission, philosophy, and practices. From underwear (thanks PACT) to recycled leather jacket (thanks Deadwood), I research each company and put thought into what I purchase. I have talked about the DoneGood app before- and it is a really helpful resource for any person at any stage.

New clothing isn’t always the best choice or a doable choice based on reason for shopping sustainable or budget. Explore on-line companies like ThredUP and Swap. Shop local consignment and thrift stores (once again, do your research. As I have written before, do they share your same values?). This saves the mola- and the environment!

Step 4: Befriend a box or two…

Since I don’t buy much, I decided to treat myself to CauseBox. This is a great way to learn more about different ethical companies- from clothing, to jewelry, to gifts. Boxes ship with each new season. It’s a treat.

I also signed up for MightyNest, as I want to reduce the amount of plastic I use. If you don’t sign up for the subscription, you can still shop their site and find all kinds of good stuff for you or people you love.

Step 5: When in doubt, check this out!

I finally started an Insta for this blog. Feel free to check out @mcglamgivesadamnn (yes- two n’s because Insta thinks “damn” is a bad word…so, give a damnn!). I have done a lot of research already. See who I follow and check them out. I strive for sustainability with all areas of my life- food, skincare, makeup, clothing, home products, and gifts. Always feel free to message me if you are struggling with a particular area. You don’t have to be alone in this!

Step 6: Sharing is caring!

If you have places or companies you love, share them with me (and others!). We are all learning! The more we share the more we can make a difference together!

Speaking of sharing, I want to give a big ole shout out to K and Sidney at Amour Vert Atlanta. They inspired this post and made me feel incredible due to their kindness, expertise, and encouragement. Thank you.

 

 

Give a damn- many damns- more damns than anyone.

 

 

“Enough is enough.”

mfol.4Recently, I learned that a member of my family was not able to vote in the mid-term elections as s/he was deemed “inactive” despite voting in the past two elections. I posted this on social media and people said, “All you have to do is fill out a form.” WRONG. My family member continues to seek an answer, a solution, a vote.

Any American should be floored by this.

In my world, I talk politics with my safe people- friends, co-workers, and people in the world willing to have an open-minded discussion. I shy away from being too public due to my job, as the organization for which I work is non-partisan and I want to make sure all people feel comfortable and safe. The situation with my family member is one that I am talking about publicly, as this impacts ALL of us.

Here are the words from the person impacted by this situation:

Democracy as a form of government is an ideal. Countries orbit nearer and farther away from this ideal yet are held in the grip of the fundamental attraction of this form of government, namely that it derives its right to rule from a mandate of its constituents rather than from heredity, religion, or force. Countries ebb and flow in their appeal to ‘a democratic ideal’ but sacred is the right of citizens to be able to engage the process: i.e.: the right to vote.

The Republican Party has undertaken a project to restrict eligible Americans from voting. Despite the long-standing National Voter Registration Act which expressly prohibits targeting voters for removal for failure to vote, the Ohio state government run by Republicans had their aggressive efforts to purge its voting rolls – arguing without evidence that they are needed to combat what they say is widespread voter fraud – supported this summer by the Supreme Court (Husted v. A. Philip Randolph Institute). Immediately similar legislative maneuvers started happening is a number of states (at last count, more than 18), and almost all Southern ones.

For example, Georgia Secretary of State, Brian Kemp (R) in the last 12 months has overseen purges that removed 1.3 million voters (18% of eligible voters in GA; almost 1 in 5 Georgians!) from the rolls. Just under 417,000 (30%) were removed because they were deceased, ineligible felons, duplicative registrants, had moved out of state, or for other legitimate reasons. The vast majority — more than 850,000 (70%) – were simply made ineligible to vote in the mid-terms. While they can go through a long process of re-registering, they will miss the election cycle, which is notable in that Brian Kemp the Republican candidate for Governor.

Why? The answer is simple, effective, and nefarious. Such methods disproportionately affect those who are less politically active: the elderly, infirm, poor, and minorities. And this is precisely the point. Voter suppression is a strategy to influence the outcome of an election by discouraging or preventing specific groups of people from voting. It is not an attempt to address the cases of voter fraud, it is to make ineligible as many people as it can as this will have a disproportionate effect on those who tend to vote for the Democratic Party.

More than several studies in Political Science have verified this again and again.  The incident of ‘voter fraud’ in which a vote is deemed not from an eligible American voter is about 0.0025% (aka: 0.000025). Nearly all of these have been traced to clerical errors or bad data matching practices rather than the impersonation of another voter. The Washington Post found 31 credible instances of impersonation fraud from 2000 to 2014, out of more than 1 billion ballots cast (31/1,000,000,000 = a rate of 0.000000031). In a series of studies out of Arizona State University, in states where politicians have specifically argued that fraud is a serious problem, they found zero successful prosecutions for impersonation fraud from 2012-2016. Combatting voter fraud is not the goal. It is to limit Americans’ right to vote.

I have long supported everyone in my family to be politically active. I don’t care who you vote for, just be engaged. I would support real efforts with getting our elections in shape. There are a number of valid concerns from proper registration, the actual counting and accounting of voting, and polling availability. Therefore, the efforts made by the Republican Party are not just dirty tactics, to me this as an American and a Political Scientist, this practice is anti-democratic. It goes against fundamental values of America. It is anti-American. I note that this ‘destroying a village to save it’ approach affects Republican voters as well. But the primary aim is the numbers at the end. Those unfortunate Republicans are merely collateral damage in the greater game of winning at all costs.

Voter fraud does not meaningful exist. Voter suppression is an anti-democratic tactic. Eligible voters made to challenge their ineligibility – often not knowing they are ineligible until they go to vote and find that it is too late – is not an unfortunate casualty of electoral politics, it is another brick that falls out of the wall of democracy.

I am writing this to you as I went to vote the other day and found that I have been ‘purged’ (their word) for inactivity despite having voted in the last two national elections. I will not be able to vote in the mid-term elections on November 6. The Republican Party efforts to misshape the representative process in America has stripped me of the most fundamental right as a democratic citizen. I can handle the nastiness but being denied the opportunity to undertake this important act as a democratic citizen is an affront to me and to those that mean it when they say ‘democracy’.

I hold the Republican Party, its enablers, and voters in contempt for having taken my right to vote. You can no longer say that you do not know and I encourage you to consider your support for those who take such anti-democratic actions. Which is more important short-term victory or the long-term deterioration of a democratic nation?

I do not write looking for an answer. I am simply making you aware that I am very, very angry. From now on, passivity in the face of these and other anti-democratic actions will not be accommodated.

Enough is enough.

I stand with my family member. I won’t be silent. I will stand for what is right. So if you have the privilege of voting (although it should be a right), I hope you don’t vote straight party. Be informed about the candidates. If you don’t know, research it from a reliable source- not for the one that wave’s your team’s flag at all cost.

 

 

 

“Must be George Soros’s fault.”

Full of “something”…

nope

As a woman in Alabama, I have grown accustomed to being in a room full of men for business meetings. I also see more women leaders, which is encouraging for the future. For now, however, it is normal for it to be the dudes and me talking about insurance or property or (fill in the blank). I don’t usually think too much about being the only woman there, until recently. I had a meeting with the dudes to talk about “something” (need to keep in vague on purpose). I did the normal retrieving of coffee and/or water, as a hostess may choose to do. The meeting was had. I was excited about the possibilities because this person clearly understood what we were looking for in “something”. I walked the expert of “something” out of the building. After the meeting there was some follow-up and cell numbers exchanged to continue to do follow-up. In the exchange, there was a comment about getting a drink. Not a problem for me, as I do have business meetings that may involve a drink; however, this became different. I said no, as I had other plans. The person began to question where we were going and who would be there. I made sure it was clear that I was married and he made it clear he was married as well. Okay, cool. That’s clear.

After getting home and watching Law and Order (my normal Friday night), I start to drift off to sleep. Text comes in at 10:15pm. “Hello”. It is the expert in “something”. I rolled my eyes and go to sleep. The next morning, I see the text that came in after the initial text: “How’s the party?”.

For me, a journey of thoughts began. I am now in an awful position. This man, friend of someone involved in my work, clearly has different motivations. He didn’t say anything offensive, but you do not know me well enough to text me after-hours about something not about business.

After an additional eye roll (insert Liz Lemon gif here) and a touch of shock, I started with beating myself up: I was too friendly; I shouldn’t have given my business cell phone; I shouldn’t have talked about alcohol. As a survivor of sexual violence, these “would of, could of, should of”s are all too familiar.

I talked to a number of people associated with my work and my personal life to gain perspective, all of whom- men and women- agreed that it was inappropriate.  I was able to cool the jets on the business side of things due to some true “have to”s  in my work. Any communication was handled by e-mail and people were cc’ed on the correspondence. It was clear that my wall was up. I struggled with thinking I should downplay my feelings in order to move forward with business. I struggled because this person was brought forward by a friend, who I do not want to disappoint. I struggled because as an organization, we do not condone that behavior. I struggled because it made me struggle emotionally.

I was finally able to finally tell the friend of the expert, he was kind and understanding. The only criticism is that I did not come to him sooner. Valid. Received. A weight was lifted…until this week. There was communication between the friend and the expert and the expert told the friend he was going to “send him some things”. What does that mean? A. If it’s business stuff, we are not interested. B. If it is stuff about me, there is nothing damming from my interactions…so are you going to make stuff up?

So here I am, struggling again. While in high school, I was viewed as a person with a good reputation, but that changed quickly because of one person. I have fought my whole life to find my voice and help others find theirs. Now, here I am…a person with a good reputation that I now fear is in jeopardy all because of one person.

My blog is about social justice issues. In this situation, the root issue is being a woman. As a woman, do I have to be different? I know this happens to men as well, so I want to keep this in mind; however, this seems to be a constant thought in my life. I put the question on social media and asked if people felt comfortable sharing their business cells. All the men- yep. Women, on the other hand, had a varied response. One of my guy friends that I had not talked to about the situation said, “…As a 43 year old father of 3, I’m not worried about a dirty old man calling me to flirt at 10pm (winky emoji)”. EXACTLY.

This also speaks to the root causes of violence. It is Sexual Assault Awareness/Activism Month (SAAM), so this is on my mind- but to be honest with you, when is it not on my mind? Listen to Courtney Barnett’s “Nameless Faceless”. Watch the HBO Documentary “I AM EVIDENCE”. Walk to your car at any time of the day or night (insert SNL’s “Welcome to Hell”). Seriously, there isn’t a day that doesn’t go by that I don’t think about my safety and well-being because I am a woman. In “I AM EVIDENCE”, they explore the reason for the horrendous backlog of SAFE (Sexual Assault Forensic Exam) kits in America and the DA of Detroit explained that it is evident it began and continued because “No one gives a damn about women in this country.” It was easy to dismiss over 200,000 (and counting) kits across this country, most of them women, because she “must have done something to cause this”. Instead of initially blaming the expert of “something” for making me uncomfortable, I took on the blame. I didn’t push back during the conversation because I felt like he was in a position of power. Now, when I have done the ethical and difficult thing, it is still not over.

The national theme for SAAM this month is Embrace Your Voice. Our motto for SAAM where I work is “If it isn’t a hell yes, then it is a hell no!” Well, this is a hell no, y’all. I embraced my voice and have no regrets.

 

“What’s NOT teal?!

Spring Cleaning or Spring Polluting?

After the recent foreclosure of my neighbor’s home and picking up her life from her front lawn, I started to think about what is going to happen to all my “stuff” when I am gone. I don’t have children. Who is going to have to deal with this??? This compelled me to start cleaning out those closets and figure it out. It seemed that the more I piled up, the deeper the question of what REALLY happens to the stuff emerged.

I made my piles- electronics, clothes to donate, clothes and items to try to sell, clothing that needs to be recycled, stuff that has no future of any kind.

  • Electronics were easier than I thought. Put a request on social media and got some feedback. Looked into the companies and what they did with the items. Felt good about this cleansing.
  • Clothes to donate follows the same rule as a previous post about which thrift stores at which you shop: Do their share your same values? If so, you got your place.
  • Clothing and items to sell- well, this is going to be an adventure. I am borrowing a dress form from a friend and plan to take photos of clothing. Hopefully, I will try to do this on my own and make a little change. I also ordered a bag from thredUP. You can send your clothes to them to sell…but if they don’t sell in 14 days, they make all the money off the sale (if and when it happens).

Here’s the one that  is bugging me: Recycling clothing. I want to do it, but what does that even mean? I looked online to see where I could go to recycle clothes. There was one organization in my city that does it. It is an organization with which I don’t share values. Deep sigh. I figured, if they are recycling clothes, it is okay. I go to the organization with two bags. I walk in with one of the two bags and this man grabs it…I mean GRABS it. I asked if they recycle the clothing and he said, “Nope. They just ship it overseas.” My gut said to get out of there. I could not get the bag back, but I did keep the other one and left with a sinking feeling. Back to the interwebs…

According to Slate, “the secondhand clothing industry has been export-oriented almost since the introduction of mass-produced gar­ments. And by one estimate, used clothing is now the United States’ number one export by volume, with the overwhelming majority sent to ports in sub-Saharan Africa.” So these clothes get baled and sent over. They are picked through again, and then what?

There is the argument that this creates jobs in other countries, but some reports say this is affecting established textile businesses in those countries. See what I mean- total rabbit hole, y’all. What we do know is that whoever is sending the clothes gets paid (now I want my bag back).

Speaking of arguments, some say at least the clothes are not going straight to landfills. I mean, I feel as though once they are picked through they ultimately end up in a landfill…just in another country. This is not recycling, is it?

I am searching for an organization to truly recycle clothing. Not send them off somewhere, but recycle them. My co-worker told me she was shopping at H&M (another deep sigh) and they announced they were recycling clothing during the month of April for Earth Month. After this recent experience with the bag grabber, I thought that they probably just ship it off like the others. Nope. Check this out:

Once the old garments have been dropped off in a store, our partner I:CO collects and sort them into three categories:

  • Rewear – clothing that can be worn again will be sold as second hand clothes.
  • Reuse – old clothes and textiles will be turned into other products, such as cleaning cloths.
  • Recycle – everything else is turned into textile fibres, and used for things like insulation.

Currently, one single garment can contain up to 20% recycled fibres (recycled cotton or recycled wool from collected garments) without any loss of quality or durability. We are working to get that number to increase by creating demand and investing directly in technological innovation. The first step is to minimise the risks of fashion going to landfills – we believe our clothes deserve better! In the long term, we want to find the technological solutions needed to be able to fully reuse and recycle all textile fibre. When using other recycled material (blended or pure) such as recycled polyester, a garment can already now be made of 100% recycled material.

So, I have a plan this weekend. I’m going to H&M. Never thought I would hear myself say those words. No shopping, just recycling.

Earth

“And it’s teal!”

 

 

Ethical Smethical…

This one is a tough one, y’all. It has been a hot minute since the last post mainly because shit has gone down. Sorry mom and dad, but- in this case- it is absolutely the right word to use. In one week, we had a shooting in a school, a shooting at a hospital, and at least two deaths of women by gun violence by an intimate partner. Those shootings were just in Birmingham, Alabama. Those shootings are just the ones of which I know.

As I prepared to join the local March for Our Lives this past weekend- especially after what our community had experienced this month- I walked outside to see all of my neighbors belongings on her front lawn. In my head, I knew what happened; however, I was in such denial. Maybe she chose to throw out all of her belongings to clean the house. Maybe she chose to leave her house for someone else to take care of her stuff. Maybe she passed away and that’s what happens to your stuff. I texted another neighbor about it and did not receive a response, so I chose to ignore it in that moment.

The march in Birmingham was beautiful. Students organized the event and did an amazing job. We saw gun owners with signs and shirts supporting sensible gun regulations. We saw survivors of the recent shootings marching for change. We saw students, teachers, and concerned citizens all gathered to raise their voices in support. There were tears, hugs, meaningful conversations, and plans for what comes next.

As I returned home, inspired and hopeful, I returned to seeing that yard full of stuff. I texted the neighbor again saying I would be out there tomorrow to clean if she wanted to join me. Sunday we met at our neighbor’s house with a few folks from a church on our street and we began to pick up pieces from this woman’s life. A woman who bought her home in the 1980s and it was almost paid off, but she became ill and was in the hospital and no one paid the mortgage. Her house which was now foreclosed. Her home was destroyed. Whomever the bank paid to “empty” her house also took her wedding dress and anything of value. They threw the contents of her fridge- raw chicken, fish, strawberries, tomatoes- onto the lawn. They threw the contents of her life out- love letters from her husband that passed, check books, photos, bills, clothing, décor. I cried as we placed the letters and photos in a box to take to her in the hospital. The rest ended up on the side of the road in black trash bags, that people have felt compelled to stop and pick through.

The word that continues to enter my brain is “ethical”. From the lack of response on sensible gun regulation to throwing a person’s life on the lawn, what is okay about any of this?

So this post isn’t about where to buy ethical things. Hell, the blog really isn’t supposed to be about that at all. This post…blog…life… is about being mindful of the people in the world around us, even if you don’t know them. Yes- this applies to the clothes we wear and the food we eat, but it also is for the stranger, or neighbor, who is trying to make their way through this world.

I know what I am going to do- give a damn. Smile a little more. Talk to my neighbors. Take action to make change. I hope you do, too.

 

“When will our consciences grow so tender that we will act to prevent human misery rather than avenge it?”

Eleanor Roosevelt

Thrifting Bham

Upon Jesse’s arrival into the office after his birthday, we discussed what he did for himself on his special day.  He said, “I went to the thrift store!” as he showed off his new shirt. As we discussed our fav thrift stores, Jesse brought up an interesting point- who does the thrift store support and/or who does the thrift store NOT support. Yes…this does seem to be important when you are thinking about ethical clothing, yet- I must admit- I had not thought about that at all. If we are shopping for ethical treatment of people, does your thrift store support the same values as you? My Law and Order brain now wants to investigate EVERY thrift store in Birmingham and report what I find out.

First on the list, Sozo Trading Company. Located in the old Mazer’s building on 41st Street in Avondale, Sozo is a huge, yet hidden, gem. I walked in to reclaimed wood décor and clear organization of clothing, home goods, and shoes. The “J” in me was immediately pleased. The space is also big enough for people to rent booths to sell their items. I will admit, I was not as intrigued by this; however, props to Sozo for their creative thinking. I quickly picked out at least ten items. While only two worked, the two were pretty fab- a leopard print designer skirt and a brown, springy skirt. With more time, I am sure there would have been more finds, but this was an investigation…not a shopping trip (hard wink).

As I checked out (with a total bill of $4!), I learned more about their mission, which you do have the option in which to donate (bar codes are on the checkout counter for $1, $3, and $5- pretty clever). I told the woman it was my first time there and she shared that they help children in Uganda, Africa. Alright, sounds good so far. Kids in Uganda are important. I stated that I also worked for a non-profit close by. She did not seem interested; however, she did give Janet a hand woven doll, since she donated $5 with her purchase (an adorable, Aztec-ish print dress for $2).

I went on my L&O mission to find out more…well, I just hit the web, so I’m no Lennie Briscoe yet. Sozo Trading provides support to the organization Sozo Children whose mission is “Empowering vulnerable children to become thriving leaders for Jesus Christ.” They have housing, clean water, and programs to serve children in Uganda.

While I am glad to learn about the impact they have in Africa, I was curious about the impact on Birmingham. Their website states that they serve “as an epicenter of inclusion embracing the diversity of our community. The store not only supports an international impact through Sozo Children, but vastly impacts the city of Birmingham locally. Centered in a thriving downtown district, Sozo Trading Co. impacts the community through organizational partnerships, volunteer opportunities, and building lasting relationships with the residents of our city. Our relational based approach constructs an environment where people can truly feel safe and welcomed. Sozo Trading Co. has been incredibly fortunate to have hundreds of volunteers from our community offering their time and resources to create this amazing space. Since our inception, we have partnered with multiple organizations in Birmingham to clothe the homeless, provide books to local schools, and assist victims of tragedy. We are thankful for a collaboration with local restoration programs to provide participants with a volunteer opportunity to reintegrate into the workplace. Sozo Trading Co. is extremely grateful to support the work of Sozo Children internationally, but also deeply proud of the impact we have locally in the city of Birmingham.”

I now have to step up my investigation even further. I am determined to find out with which organizations they have partnered. If it is Firehouse Shelter, I’m down (thanks, Firehouse- you rule). This will take a little more time and I will definitely report back. In the meantime, more of the Crisis Center staff have checked out the shopping and it looks like they are pleased.

To find out more on your own, be a Lennie and check out http://www.sozotrading.org/.

 

“Oh! They flew Delta!”

 

You know what they say when you assume…

Okay. I got a little eager about the first blog post. Call it a post-event high. I seemed to skip the most important part of the resolution…WHY shop ethical. Sounds good, right?! Thankfully- and unfortunately- it is a little deeper than that.

When I graduated from Florida State with my master’s degree in higher education administration, I was not thinking about ethical anything. Meeting Sima Thorpe from Gonzaga University changed that for me- forever. She interviewed me at a NASPA conference for a position with the Center for Community Action and Service-Learning. Her first question was, “What are you passionate about?” This may seem silly, but it clicked in that moment. I knew I was supposed to work with this person. It didn’t matter that Gonzaga was in Spokane, Washington…a place that sees snow for 6 months of the year. All that mattered is that I worked for a person that cared and for a place that recognized people’s values (funny how that hasn’t changed in my job requirements).

Gonzaga introduced me to the most engaged students- eager to make real change in the world. I was there to help guide them with their endeavors; however, the very opposite occurred. They schooled me- big time. From a group of young men that started GUMAR (GU Men Against Rape) to those organizing alternative spring breaks, I was absolutely floored by the passion of these students. When I heard Zandra Rice talk about clothing from a chain retailer and how it was made by people who were not paid fair wages, this was the first time I even thought about who made the clothes. This started the exploration of the truth behind the labels.

So here is the “why” for me: treating people with dignity and respect.  As a former friend used to say, I do not want clothes made by “tiny fingers”. I want people to earn a fair wage and for work in a place that is safe. I mean, basic stuff. Me feeling or looking cute because I bought a new sweater from (fill in the blank) retailer should not come before the well-being of another individual.

In addition to the “why”, I have found that shopping ethical checks some boxes off that makes my soul and brain happy. Shopping at thrift stores and consignment shops allows me to tap into my creative side. I sometimes wish for something that is truly new and allow that on rare, special occasions. When buying something new, I have to do a bit of research which helps the “problem solver” in me. I have also been known to be slightly political (athem…), so I can talk about how hard it is to find things made in America (I’m destined to be the 83 year old with too many cats…). I also have to be so thoughtful about any purchase. As someone who wants to spend money- but doesn’t have it to spend- this process of finding something allows me to truly think about what I am buying and if I really need it.

There is still so much to learn about the impact of “fast fashion” on people and our environment, but what I know is enough to make me shop a little differently.

 

“I mean, it’s one banana, Michael. What could it cost? 10 dollars?”

It all started with a New Year’s resolution…

 

I decided to only buy fair trade, consignment, or ethically made in the USA clothing for one year. That was at least five years ago. I am damn proud when I figure out that perfect outfit and there is no guilt. So this blog may be slightly self-indulgent, but it is also to share so others know it is possible. There are challenges- yes. But mama likes a challenge…and I hope to help others meet that challenge, as well.

Last night, I went to a black-tie event. This is my first with this resolution…and my first ever, honestly. I went to a local consignment store where I struggled. Due to that, I decided it was worth a new dress (this is a rare treat). I went to the amazing DoneGood app and searched women’s dresses. That app is seriously the best thing ever. You can search clothing, household goods, shoes- so much. I stumbled across Reformation. One word- SWOON. I ordered the Briana dress in green and it arrived a few days later in a precious garment bag. I didn’t have to do a dang thing to it before wearing (which is good, since I ordered it the week of the event…). It fit perfectly.

Accessories for the evening included earrings from my bestie, Melissa. She bought them from a local fair-trade store and gave these to me one Christmas. A $5 leopard print purse from a garage sale was my “evening bag”. Shoes- sandals that I have had forever. Red nail polish by Pacifica. Makeup- BeautyCounter. I could tell you about the made in USA undergarments also, but I will leave that be for now.

Total ethical outfit for my first black-tie affair- and I felt marvelous.

 

 

“She could talk to a fern.”